Q:This is totally random. I was watching one of your videos and at the end there was bloopers. I mean I was laughing so hard. There was pizza eating. Double streams. It was hilarious. I was wondering, in your entire time of being in the adult industry, are there a lot of funny moments like this or was this just the atmosphere of the particular studio you were working with?
When I’m on a shoot - there’s always funny moments. I’m not too serious, I know the role, and I realize the need to “relax, it’s just sex.” You gotta let the good times happen - because sex is a good time!!
When I worked for Corbin Fisher, I saw super serious no-nonsense shoots and they were stifling, and it made bad product. The models are stiff, the sex is insincere, and the chemistry is way off. Then again it was a lot of bro-types there that tend to screw around and try to force bloopers to happen - damn kids who think being the class clown is more important than sex. What are they teaching kids these days?!
Q:what according to you is romantic? a candle lit dinner, walk on the beach, enjoy coffee on a rainy day etc ????
Anonymous
Romatic is doing something customized to the person you have genuine feelings and care for with the intent on evoking positive feelings in that person - demonstrating your desire to be with them over the long term.
It can be something as simple as getting them Chicken McNuggets after they whisper it in your ear at 1am. Or meeting them on the sidewalk when you pick them up from work with an umbrella. Or taking them to a fancy place to eat for your anniversary. Or making them a meal you know they love, but you don’t particularly enjoy. Or a massage and candles and a Bj before they go to sleep. Wine, cheese, crackers, and fruit and a cheezy old 90s B flick.
Know your audience, make your move, make it sincere, and the stars will do the rest.
Q:I know this comes out of left field but have you ever considered being a counselor. I have been following you for quite some time and the advice you give is usually very spot on. You do a good job of discussing topics concerning sex in without coming off as trite or condescending. The advice you just gave to the anon was perfect. Just a thought! Have a good night!
I’d love to be a counselor or a therapist. It would be a great line of work for me. Maybe when I get bored of IT I will look into it.
Hugs!
Q:Hey there, I've been following you for a little while, and I'm sure you get asked this a lot, but I'm considering trying to maybe do porn. I have a few nudes on Tumblr, and a few vids on Xtube, but I'd like to maybe do a little more and possibly get a little money for it. Do you have any advice on how to break in to it? Or should I just outright send an application in to a sight?
Anonymous
Get to know models who are actively in the industry. Ask them about who they shot for and get to know the producer. Ask when they might be shooting again - let them know you’re interested and show them your stuff.
I really can’t advise anyone do Bear Films, but it’s a good place to start. I highly strongly and with prejudice advise you DO NOT DO Hairy and Raw. Or any kind of bareback unless there is testing involved.
Q:Would it turn you on if you watched Bailey cum inside a woman?
Anonymous
God yes. I’d eat his spunk outta her pussy gladly. Get me some sloppy seconds and fuck her while he watched me.
We’ve talked about getting with an FTM buddy and having some fun!
Q:Hey! All the way from Singapore! Am loving your blog and posts that you do. Any chance that you are gonna drop by Asia for holidays? Btw what are your takes on Asian bears and cub :P
Anonymous
No plans to visit Asia any time soon.
I love me some Asian bears and cubs! I love how shy they can be :)
Q:Hi. Did you ever wake up to a blowjob from Bailey in the morning? If so, can you please give a very detailed description of that experience?
Anonymous
Ummm.. I love Bailey.. but, he is excessively cranky if I try to wake him for a BJ. But if I catch him before he has to actually get up on a day we can sleep in - I can blow him and he will fall back to sleep and be especially happy when he does wake :) But I can’t just blow him to wake him up - that does not work.
Q:what are your thoughts on older virgins (mid 30's)? I'm terrified now that if it happens I will be horrible.
Anonymous
I helped a buddy who was in his 30s get past his virginity. First BJ, first role play, first mutual JO. Was very fun! I think I set a good stage for him to grow on.
It might be horrible. So? Whats wrong with that? The next one might not be - or it might - who knows. Who cares. Sex at the beginning stages isn’t about being good. It’s about exploration and learning.
I feel bad for heterosexuals sometimes - the go in to their partners crotch completely blind. The opposite sex genitalia is completely alien to them. The anatomy are completely different. The skin types compared on males and females can be very confusing. I mean.. seriously - foreskin? labia? clitoris? testicles? It’s all so complex is amazing our ancestors ever figured it out.
Same-sex pairings have it a little easier - at least the frame work of the pieces are the same.. then you find out that there are several hundred varieties of vagina and penis. Different sizes, proportions, sensitivities, skin hanging off different parts, juices flowing and all kinds of smells.
There isn’t going to be a pairing where you don’t learn something new. So get used to it. Sometimes it’s going to be great because the territory is familiar or you learn fast - other times you’ll be lost and confused and still trying to figure out what happened days later.
Just get in there. Go slow, trust your instincts, use what you know about your body to make the other person feel good, ask questions, listen to your partner both verbally and the unspoken, and above all else make sure you do the same when you are being pleasured as well.
Go! Learn! Make mistakes! Get better!
Q:Once you get this you have to say 10 things you like about yourself, publicly, then send this to 10 of your favorite followers. (This nonnegotiable)
- fuck me
- fuck this
- fuck mems
- fuck sending this
- fuck my favorites
- fuck my followers
- fuck the number 10
- fuck negotiation
- fuck non-negotiation
- and fuck you.
Seriously people, no offense to DeadSalvaiton, but this is the 6th one of these bastard fucking memes I’ve found in my goddamn in box.
This isn’t AOL, MySpace, or god forbid mother fucking Facebook.
Dick pics, good asks, or GTFO.
Q:My boyfriend is 40 and I am 22. Everything is great in terms of our relationship except one place - the bedroom. My boyfriend only wants to top me, which I wouldn't have too much of a problem with (I'm vers but prefer top) if he were any good. I don't mind that he's on the smaller side, but he has a real problem staying hard, often unable to cum. He gets anxiety to perform since he was basically a virgin before meeting me. He is reluctant to try new things and I don't know what to do. Advice?
Anonymous
I’d say the best course of action would be a come-to-jesus meeting.
You have to be careful how you present it.. don’t attack or tell him he is doing something wrong. There is no issue. Focus on the opportunity to do something better. Tell him you want to explore new things - like you are entering a new chapter in your sex life and trying to establish what you want to try and how you can proceed to make it better for both of you to expand your horizons and discover new pleasures.
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This my personal dirty blog. It's not a porn blog where you'll find a constant stream of dirty pics - Tumblr has plenty of that. Here you will find thoughtful discussion, advice, and occasionally a video of me ranting.
